As a follow-up to my previous post, “How to be an Ally” I wanted to share another great article.
It really can be hard to know what to do or say when someone comes to you with their pain. The following article is written by another woman who has worked at a rape crisis center. Her main point is that it is not your job to become the counselor. You don’t have to have all the right words. You don’t need to have any words. Just be present with the other person and be a witness to their story.
“At some moment, perhaps several moments, in your life, you will be in a room with someone who is disclosing to you about their trauma, rape, domestic violence, human trafficking, suicide, etc. You may freeze up or panic. “What should I do?” You may not know this person, or you may not want to know this person. You may want to leave the room and not come back. Or maybe they’re your dad, or your girlfriend. Maybe you will leave, maybe you won’t. For argument’s sake, and because I have nowhere to go with this if you don’t stay, let’s say you stay. What now…?”
Tomorrow is Halloween. Have fun and be safe! See you in November.